Mother -n law trying to tell husband what to do!!! Help!?

You should get your anger out by doing exercise and things like that. Don't take it out on her or anyone else in the family. You shouldn't even say anything to her. Just tell your husband how you feel about it once. Don't dwell on it or continue to bring it up. He has to deal with what his mother brings into your house because she's his mother, not yours. If he doesn't deal with it when he says he will, then tell him exactly what bothers you and get a specific time table for when and how he will deal with it. Hold him to it. If he fails give him consequences like leaving the area when his mother comes over. Whatever you do, don't get between him and his mother. You won't win. It's his mother. Let him know that you value your relationship with him, and if he does also, he will tell his mother to stop criticizing. You should also tell him that you intend to be in a marriage with a man, not a boy who lets his mother tell him what to do. He's the only one who can stop this. If you try yourself, it will only emasculate him, and they will both resent you.