Saturday, August 13, 2011

What is your opinion on people who name-call their kids?

I can answer this question, because I have experience being the child of both a physically, and emotionally abusive home. My adoptive parents called me fat, fat-*ss, ugly, stupid etc, as well as made faces at me to "get me started", I wasn't allowed to cry, or leave the room when I was upset with them, I had to sit in the same room with them as they sat there putting me down. I can honestly say that (in my opinion) emotional abuse is worse than physical. I hated going home after school, hated March break, hated summer break and hated weekends, because all of this meant I would be at home with them for them to put me down. It affected my outside life at school, while I did have a few friends, I had such low self confidence, I had a hard time making friends. I actually thought I was fat and ugly. Two days after my 15th birthday, i was taken out of there home by children's aide, and put into a foster home. I was treated so well, and I got to see how a normal person got to live. I gained confidence and had no problem making friends. Looking back at photos of myself when I was in my foster home, I can not even believe they called me fat, or even that I thought I was fat! I was average size- and to think I used to starve myself not to be fat when I lived with them! I am now 20 years old, and I love my life, have very good self confidence, and am a very positive person, who always sees the good in things. Now I don't regret having been in that situation when I was a child, because it makes me who I am today, but I am extremely thankful that I was put in the foster home that I was, because that was exactly what I needed, and those foster parents, are the ones who made me who I am today as well. Sorry for rambling on and on about my life, but since you asked the question, I felt as though other parents may be able to benefit from reading this. My heart goes out to any child who has been through this, or is going through it right now, because it really makes a child feel very unloved.

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